Are You Living In the Past?

I’ve got a bit of news for you.

That version of you, the previous one, the one you keep referencing, is old news.

It’s like spending all your time looking in the rear view mirror while trying to drive forward.

If you’re spending time reminiscing about who you were before, in the past, identifying with that version of yourself, then you are seriously limiting who you can become.

Who you were and what you did last year, last decade, or even last night is no more.

Often we draw from our past to describe ourselves in the present, when that might not be who we are today, or more importantly who we want to be today.

In order to transform yourself into who you want to become, you’ve got to drop your attachment to the details of before – unless of course you’d like them to continue.

Do you find yourself saying things like:

“Oh, I’ve worked at the X,Y,Z company for 20 years and have my own business on the side (but I’d like to leave that company and work for myself fulltime).”

“I’ve been coaching and consulting for 10 years (but I’d really like to expand my focus).”

“I’ve got an MBA and used to be a manager for a big-wig law firm but now I’m a health and fitness consultant.”

When you frame everything with who you used to be (or where you used to work) instead of speaking exclusively about who you are now and what you’re working toward, you shackle yourself to the past.

This does not serve you.

It’s time to toss out those antiquated ideas you have about yourself and look excitedly inward and forward to identify who you really are.

You have the power to redefine yourself.

You are the creator of your life and the part you play in it.

Speaking of play, let’s play a game.

Take a moment to quiet your mind and focus. Then answer these questions:

  • Who are you today?
  • Who are you becoming?
  • What excites you about your life at present?
  • What thrills you about your vision for the future?
  • What feelings are your favorites? Joy, laughter, accomplishment? What else?
  • How do you cultivate those feelings in your life today? Can you create a list? (Hint: Keep doing those things)

Spend some time bathing in the sweetness of the emotions you just cultivated.

Now ask yourself again:

What do you like about who you are today?

What excites you about who you are becoming?

Do this exercise daily until you find yourself routinely paying attention to the positive aspects of where you are now and what you’re building.

Start describing yourself in terms of the person you are becoming. You don’t have to say them aloud to anyone else, but begin to speak to yourself in those terms.

Begin to identify what you want to accomplish and then start communicating as though it’s already appeared.

Tap into a vision for yourself that stirs those positive emotions you cultivated during the exercise above. Just be sure the vision you choose elicits a feeling of excitement and positive anticipation, not lack or impatience.

The future is yours to construct. It is a blank slate.

Start creating that wonderful future now. Start here. Start today.

Start with looking inward and asking “Who do I want to become?”

Then speak as though you already are.

Who are you becoming?

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